People are intimidated by sex toys, both men and women. This post is for the ladies who want to add them into their sex lives and have men who aren’t really game. I understand the issue, truly I do, nobody wants to feel replaced or like they are inferior.
But, this really isn’t what toys are for – they are to enhance, not replace. Ask your partner if their porn replaces you, there in real life, ready to play? They will laugh and say no, of course not, they need the real thing. That’s your argument exactly… you also need the real thing!
Toys just help you learn what you like, give you a better awareness of your body and how it works and enhances pleasure, that’s it.
Here is a list of things toys can’t do if you need to help your man accept the idea of toys in bed!
1. Toys can’t give us the sweet or sexy talk we need and want.
2. Toys, no matter how life-like the material, do not feel like the real thing. There is nothing that replaces the feeling of a man thrusting inside of you, nothing.
3. Toys are limited… even a toy with 20 different functions does just that, 20 different functions. They can’t mix it up, they can only do what they are designed to do and we all know, humans like variety.
4. Toys can’t be spontaneous…. they can’t turn a late night movie on the couch into a sexy experience. They can’t ravish you in the kitchen for no reason at all or surprise you with an unexpected smack on the behind.
5. Toys can’t make us feel like a goddess…. but when your man wants you, shows you he wants you and touches you like he wants you, you feel like woman wants to feel. Toys can get you to an orgasm, but that’s it.
6. Toys can’t compliment us…. and we all want to be complemented, to be told we’re pretty and sexy even when we worry about how our body looks. We need that, badly, and toys cannot do that for us.
7. Toys can’t make us laugh…. light-hearted fun sex, where you try something stupid and laugh when it fails, is one of the best experiences a couple can have. Toys can’t provide that but your man can!
8.Toys can’t kiss or caress us… and women like to be kissed, caressed, nuzzled, lightly bit on the neck. This isn’t optional, for most women it’s a must to be man-handled a bit and kissed in the process.
9. Toys can’t change positions…. Sure, you can get into different positions with some toys, but they can’t give you that roll in hay experience your man can. Your man might start you on your back but by the time you’re done you might have switched it up half a dozen times. Toys can’t do that.
10. Toys can’t chat with you afterwards… Women like to talk a bit afterwards, laugh a bit, talk a bit, just chat with the person you just shared a great experience with. No toy will ever give that to us, ever.
Sex is fun, toys are fun and they complement each other very well. Read this with your man and see what he thinks by the time you’re done! Better yet, tell us if this list helped you introduce some toy play into your sex life!